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Swedish rice pudding – Ris á la Malta

Swedish rice pudding – Ris á la Malta

SharePinEmailYum0 SharesThere’s a Swedish Christmas dessert that is called rice á la Malta. Swedish rice pudding.  It’s sort of rice pudding that has nothing to do with Malta at all. However, most families have their own recipe for it. It’s mostly common during Christmas, but […]

Things I do to reduce food-waste.

Things I do to reduce food-waste.

Pin1ShareEmailYum1 SharesSponsored content Matsmart What if I told you that you buy groceries cheaper, in bigger quantities (if you want) all the while you are helping to reduce food waste. Sounds good? Keep on reading on how you can do the same. Stocking your pantry […]

Swedish cardamom knots – time for fika

Swedish cardamom knots – time for fika

Pin1ShareEmailYum1 SharesThe cardamom knot or the bun if you will is the queen of Swedish fika. And fika is the palace in which you indulge the quintessential of Swedish culture. You can get a cardamom knot at pretty much any café in Sweden. That and coffee […]

Vegan bounty bars

Vegan bounty bars

Share13Pin6EmailYum19 SharesThese vegan bounty bars were created because two of my best friends have different types of food allergies. But they still like sweets and honestly who doesn’t like bounty bars? Especially with only the good stuff inside them. They are not very difficult to make […]

Food waste as a cause

Food waste as a cause

SharePinEmailYum0 SharesWe are quite good in Sweden when it comes to food waste. People, in general, are quite aware of the problem and try to solve it. There are tv shows dedicated to the subject, books written and social movements. Good as in there are […]

Easy Halloween cupcakes

Easy Halloween cupcakes

Pin2ShareEmailYum2 SharesEasy Halloween cupcakes, don’t you like the sound of that? I sure do. Easy is right up my alley right now. There are so many Holidays and birthdays this Autumn. Therefore easy Halloween cupcakes are fantastic! Keeping it real As I mentioned in my […]

How to throw a last minute Halloween party

How to throw a last minute Halloween party

SharePinEmailYum0 SharesTo throw a last minute Halloween party doesn’t have to be complicated, in fact, I’m giving away my greatest tips for you. If you follow my last minute Halloween party guide you will be on your way to Halloween stardom. Pinning is easy If you […]

Female friendships – why they matter

Female friendships – why they matter

Share7Pin2EmailYum9 SharesFemale friendships have come to save my life over the years. It’s something wonderful that has matured over the years. And like good wines, good friendships only get better. It took me quite a while to form really good female friendships. Let’s say I […]

Mean kidney bean dip

Mean kidney bean dip

Pin2ShareEmailYum2 SharesThe mean kidney bean dip will surely knock your socks off! The only thing that is as impressive as the time it takes to make (5 minutes!) is the flavour! The mean kidney bean dip is a welcome treat on our Halloween dinner table. […]

Jack O’Lantern stuffed peppers

Jack O’Lantern stuffed peppers

Pin10ShareEmailYum10 SharesJack O’Lantern stuffed peppers are the perfect addition to your Halloween party. They are easy to make, a little creepy and yet delicious to eat. These Jack O’lantern stuffed peppers are vegetarian, however, you can fill them with anything you like. I fill my Jack O’Lantern stuffed […]


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The art of not giving a damn

The art of not giving a damn

Not giving a damn. How do you do that? That is the million dollar question, isn’t it? How come that some people seem to able to shrug off anything while others seem to dwell on things for a long time?

The art of not giving a damn is not about not caring about others or being empathetic towards others. It’s about caring enough for yourself to know when to give a damn. If you are full of angst and you don’t feel good, you can’t care about others anyway.

I recently had this conversation with a member of my family and she was worried about what people might say about her if she does particular things. And I was wondering why this was something she was worried about at all. What others say about her. And why something she doesn’t know about, bothers her.

Therefore I asked her, do you like everyone?

Well, no.

Do you not like them because of something they have done? Or is it mostly because of personal chemistry?

Mostly it’s a chemistry thing.

Then, since it’s a chemistry thing is it possible that dwelling on won’t help at all? Therefore making it into a mutual thing? Becuase most of the time, people we don’t like, usually don’t like us back. And instead of dwelling on why it is like that shift your energy into something you can do something about?

Do you not care about what people say about you?

This was the question she asked me.

No, not one bit. I know who I am. I know that not everyone likes me. I also know that I sometimes make mistakes and if that is brought to my attention I try to correct it. But, I also know that, no matter what I’m like. I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. Bottom line is that you can’t please everyone and in trying to do so you will lose yourself. Therefore not giving a damn is the best thing to do. Focus your attention on things that matter. Matter for real.

This is not to say that I don’t care about people who matter to me, I do. I also care to be respectful and kind towards people in general. Because that is something I believe in. However, at the end of the day, I can’t bend over backwards to be liked and well spoken of by everyone. Because that will, in the end, cause me not to like myself very much.

It’s time to get personal

I have two sons, one of which is born with ADHD. This as you might have guessed caused a lot of opinions. A lot of unsolicited advice from unknown people who apparently not only had opinions about me and my son but also but what kind of person and parent I was.

I learned the art of not giving a damn. You have to choose your battles wisely. And as we know, what is a wise choice to me, is not a wise choice for everyone else.

And man did people have opinions. I could either lock myself and my son in my apartment or I could go embrace the world the best way I knew how. By not letting my choices be driven by someone else’s agenda.

Me, myself and I

I have a very wise and close friend who often claims that people are not against you, rather they are for themselves. Which I think sums it up very nicely. It’s not that they are after you specifically, but they are looking after their own interests. By learning this approach things will not be as personal as you might perceive them. Which makes it easier not giving a damn.

I have also noticed that when you are happy and in a good place you don’t have time to talk about others, nor do you have time to care about what others think of you.

It’s like raising a child. You can either care about every single little detail and oh boy do you care, before becoming a parent. Or you can learn how to choose your battles.

How do you master the art of not giving a damn?

Decide who you want to live your life for. You only get one.

Decide what matters and be brave enough to let yourself decide.

People are often way too busy to think about themselves and not you.

Decide what makes you happy.

Decide to be happy.

Decide not to a giving a damn about things that don’t matter.

 


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Swedish rice pudding – Ris á la Malta

Swedish rice pudding – Ris á la Malta

There’s a Swedish Christmas dessert that is called rice á la Malta. Swedish rice pudding.  It’s sort of rice pudding that has nothing to do with Malta at all. However, most families have their own recipe for it. It’s mostly common during Christmas, but can, […]

Swedish cardamom knots – time for fika

Swedish cardamom knots – time for fika

The cardamom knot or the bun if you will is the queen of Swedish fika. And fika is the palace in which you indulge the quintessential of Swedish culture. You can get a cardamom knot at pretty much any café in Sweden. That and coffee of […]

Vegan bounty bars

Vegan bounty bars

These vegan bounty bars were created because two of my best friends have different types of food allergies. But they still like sweets and honestly who doesn’t like bounty bars? Especially with only the good stuff inside them. They are not very difficult to make but […]

Easy Halloween cupcakes

Easy Halloween cupcakes

Easy Halloween cupcakes, don’t you like the sound of that? I sure do. Easy is right up my alley right now. There are so many Holidays and birthdays this Autumn. Therefore easy Halloween cupcakes are fantastic! Keeping it real As I mentioned in my previous […]

Bakery style apple muffins

Bakery style apple muffins

Who wouldn’t want to wake up to the smell of bakery style apple muffins? I have three apple trees in my garden. As you can imagine there is quite an overflow of apples. These apple muffins are so moist I was even surprised myself. Make a double […]