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Female friendships – why they matter

Female friendships – why they matter

Female friendships have come to save my life over the years. It’s something wonderful that has matured over the years. And like good wines, good friendships only get better. It took me quite a while to form really good female friendships. Let’s say I didn’t […]

Mean kidney bean dip

Mean kidney bean dip

The mean kidney bean dip will surely knock your socks off! The only thing that is as impressive as the time it takes to make (5 minutes!) is the flavour! The mean kidney bean dip is a welcome treat on our Halloween dinner table. Even […]

Jack O’Lantern stuffed peppers

Jack O’Lantern stuffed peppers

Jack O’Lantern stuffed peppers are the perfect addition to your Halloween party. They are easy to make, a little creepy and yet delicious to eat. These Jack O’lantern stuffed peppers are vegetarian, however, you can fill them with anything you like. I fill my Jack O’Lantern stuffed peppers […]

Roasted heirloom tomato soup

Roasted heirloom tomato soup

You know those days when you get home from picking up your kids from school? When you get home and you realise that you don’t have the energy to cook? Ever have those days? Those days what saves me is the roasted heirloom tomato soup. […]

A Super smoothie to super charge you

A Super smoothie to super charge you

What’s a super smoothie compared to superwomen? Nothing really. But superwomen need their superpowers. And what better way to start off than giving your body the good stuff. This is a sponsored post by Entreprenörddagen. Superpower vs. Hungry My superpower is that I can make connections with people. […]

How to host a crayfish party – and why you should

How to host a crayfish party – and why you should

West Bothnia Cheese pie or Västerbottenost paj as we call it in Sweden. Is a must at every crayfish party. The characteristics of the West Bothnia Cheese makes it especially delicious for this pie. It’s silky smooth inside and crisp outside will make you want to eat […]

Bakery style apple muffins

Bakery style apple muffins

Who wouldn’t want to wake up to the smell of bakery style apple muffins? I have three apple trees in my garden. As you can imagine there is quite an overflow of apples. These apple muffins are so moist I was even surprised myself. Make a double […]

Chocolate toffee cuts

Chocolate toffee cuts

I know not everyone loves chocolate. However, after trying these chocolate toffee cookies you will be turned. They are crunchy, yet they are chewy because of the toffee. They also disappear very quickly I noticed. Last time I didn’t even have time to taste them. They were […]

Sweet potato jacket in the oven

Sweet potato jacket in the oven

I made a post on my Instagram this week about hell hour. Let’s continue down that road. Because let’s face it, school just started. We have a long way until Christmas break. Sweet potato jackets bake themselves in the oven. The topping takes about 5 […]

Shakshuka -Middle eastern quick food

Shakshuka -Middle eastern quick food

Shakshuka is my favourite Middle Eastern go-to meal. It’s quick, it’s very flavourful and all it takes is 20 minutes. And if you have eggs and tomato sauce you have your base. I would say that’s pretty damn perfect. Shakshuka – what? I always mispronounce […]


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The art of not giving a damn

The art of not giving a damn

Not giving a damn. How do you do that? That is the million dollar question, isn’t it? How come that some people seem to able to shrug off anything while others seem to dwell on things for a long time?

The art of not giving a damn is not about not caring about others or being empathetic towards others. It’s about caring enough for yourself to know when to give a damn. If you are full of angst and you don’t feel good, you can’t care about others anyway.

I recently had this conversation with a member of my family and she was worried about what people might say about her if she does particular things. And I was wondering why this was something she was worried about at all. What others say about her. And why something she doesn’t know about, bothers her.

Therefore I asked her, do you like everyone?

Well, no.

Do you not like them because of something they have done? Or is it mostly because of personal chemistry?

Mostly it’s a chemistry thing.

Then, since it’s a chemistry thing is it possible that dwelling on won’t help at all? Therefore making it into a mutual thing? Becuase most of the time, people we don’t like, usually don’t like us back. And instead of dwelling on why it is like that shift your energy into something you can do something about?

Do you not care about what people say about you?

This was the question she asked me.

No, not one bit. I know who I am. I know that not everyone likes me. I also know that I sometimes make mistakes and if that is brought to my attention I try to correct it. But, I also know that, no matter what I’m like. I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. Bottom line is that you can’t please everyone and in trying to do so you will lose yourself. Therefore not giving a damn is the best thing to do. Focus your attention on things that matter. Matter for real.

This is not to say that I don’t care about people who matter to me, I do. I also care to be respectful and kind towards people in general. Because that is something I believe in. However, at the end of the day, I can’t bend over backwards to be liked and well spoken of by everyone. Because that will, in the end, cause me not to like myself very much.

It’s time to get personal

I have two sons, one of which is born with ADHD. This as you might have guessed caused a lot of opinions. A lot of unsolicited advice from unknown people who apparently not only had opinions about me and my son but also but what kind of person and parent I was.

I learned the art of not giving a damn. You have to choose your battles wisely. And as we know, what is a wise choice to me, is not a wise choice for everyone else.

And man did people have opinions. I could either lock myself and my son in my apartment or I could go embrace the world the best way I knew how. By not letting my choices be driven by someone else’s agenda.

Me, myself and I

I have a very wise and close friend who often claims that people are not against you, rather they are for themselves. Which I think sums it up very nicely. It’s not that they are after you specifically, but they are looking after their own interests. By learning this approach things will not be as personal as you might perceive them. Which makes it easier not giving a damn.

I have also noticed that when you are happy and in a good place you don’t have time to talk about others, nor do you have time to care about what others think of you.

It’s like raising a child. You can either care about every single little detail and oh boy do you care, before becoming a parent. Or you can learn how to choose your battles.

How do you master the art of not giving a damn?

Decide who you want to live your life for. You only get one.

Decide what matters and be brave enough to let yourself decide.

People are often way too busy to think about themselves and not you.

Decide what makes you happy.

Decide to be happy.

Decide not to a giving a damn about things that don’t matter.

 


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Bakery style apple muffins

Bakery style apple muffins

Who wouldn’t want to wake up to the smell of bakery style apple muffins? I have three apple trees in my garden. As you can imagine there is quite an overflow of apples. These apple muffins are so moist I was even surprised myself. Make a double […]

Chocolate toffee cuts

Chocolate toffee cuts

I know not everyone loves chocolate. However, after trying these chocolate toffee cookies you will be turned. They are crunchy, yet they are chewy because of the toffee. They also disappear very quickly I noticed. Last time I didn’t even have time to taste them. They were […]

Hungarian plum dumplings

Hungarian plum dumplings

Hungarian plum dumplings or Szilvás gomboc as they are called in Hungarian is the epitome of my childhood. This is how my grandmother showed me her deepest love for me. And after making Hungarian plum dumplings myself I now know how deep that love went. There […]

The best ice lolly recipe for kids

The best ice lolly recipe for kids

My kids have been living out of our freezer this summer. We have an ice lolly factory in our kitchen. It has been a tropical summer in Sweden. And we are loving every minute of it. Ice lollies for breakfast anyone? These ice lollies are […]

Fresh cherry cake recipe

Fresh cherry cake recipe

The cherry season has definitely begun. It seems like cherries are a bit like coriander. Either you like it or you don’t. Cherry cake seems to be what unites the camp though. Hungarian heritage Cherries are one of the best things I know. I recently discovered […]